There are many definitions of "what is an emotion" however, the best and most functional for Innerwealth is "a lopsided perception." In other words, "an imbalanced thought."
Take a blade of grass for example. You can mow it with a lawn mower and there's no emotion is there? You aren't crying at the loss of a blade of grass, you're not jumping up and down with joy and happiness that you chopped it down. It's a blade of grass, or, as Einstein once said about psycho therapy, "sometimes a cigar is just a cigar."
Emotion comes from the mind choosing a position - an opinion on something - an object or event then becomes "gooder or badder" than it was. Kiss a lover and during the kiss - it's a kiss. Then go describe that kiss to a friend and emotion overflows. It's either an ugly or a beautiful experience. Emotion.
A huge percentage of emotion comes pre-packaged in the form of memory. Take a rose for example, somebody gives you a red rose, your blood races and your nose smells that beautiful smell, but is that the rose you are holding or a memory? The answer is "99% of the time" memory, and that's the perception marketing gurus want you to have about products before you even buy them. Preconceived ideas include: racial opinions, self judgement, good and bad people by appearance, food, babies, life and death, good companies and bad. 99% of it, is pre-programmed emotional attachment.
2, Are emotions healthy and when do they turn unhealthy?
So, changing an emotion is often a tricky business. Hence, there are good and bad emotions on the first plane because if that memory or pre-programmed emotion is not serving us (remember what we judge we create, attract or become) changing that emotion can be a lot more complex than staring in a mirror saying, "I'm kind, I'm happy and I'm a very nice person." Deep rooted memories can underpin years of counselling, drug abuse and self-sabotage at work and at home.
There are also low emotions and high emotions. Low emotions manifest themselves in extreme physical and chemical agitation, such as anger, hate, jealousy, envy, fear and guilt. High emotions include: kindness, compassion, generosity and thankfulness. They are defined as high emotions because of the minimal physical reaction produced while triggering health giving chemicals in the body.
Most disease, both physical and mental can be traced back to low emotions.
3. Why is this true "If you can't manage your emotions you can't manage your money?"
All decisions based on emotion are naive. Emotion is a vital ingredient of life, and healthy emotion is critical to success, longevity and health. However, any decision based on emotion is based on imbalanced information and therefore not based on fact. Our ability to manage: buying and selling, saving and spending, wealth creation and poverty are often based on other people's emotion but rarely our own.
4. What have good leadership, great relationship and emotion got to do with each other?
Good leadership has two elements: Management and Leadership which are two very different topics: Management is manipulation of emotion, leadership is the opposite: Whatever we are attracted to or repelled from, leads us. So, a leader who is emotionally blinded by those they like and emotionally affected by those they don't like is being led by those people. A leader seeking approval is no leader.
Great relationship has two elements too: Romance and Love. Romance and attraction/repulsion are based on emotion, and are therefore affected by judgements and opinions and are subsequently seductive. Sustaining romance over time requires significant emotional awareness. Love on the other hand, requires the absence of emotion. We fall in love when we forget to judge. Sometimes we can be in love with someone, but as soon as we move in to live with them, or meet their parents or start talking religion, we can feel like we fell out of love.
Not so really, we are still in love, but because of negative perceptions and emotional judgements, we lost attraction.
It is therefore a great wisdom to know that the skills that make a great leader at work, will often kill a relationship at home.
Reference:Chris J Walker
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