If you can't figure out why your boyfriend won't marry you, you're living in a very difficult situation. Falling in love is really such a magical feeling. When you first meet the man that you believe will become your husband you wait for the day when he'll inevitably pop the question. If time passes and he doesn't even seem interested in the concept of marriage at all, you've got a problem on your hands. For many women, they simply don't understand why their man won't commit, so they continue to wait and wait. This isn't emotionally healthy and in some cases women end up waiting decades for a wedding that will never happen. Don't let that happen to you. The first step towards making a decision about the relationship is to understand why he's not as anxious to become a married couple as you are.
Men have a laundry list of excuses at the ready for why they aren't ready to get married. They range from the far fetched to the very believable. A few prime examples are the man who claims that he just can't afford it. That's obviously going to be a real concern for many men, but if he's been using it for more than a couple of years, it's likely just a smoke screen. Other men will say that they're wary of marriage because they are afraid of losing their freedom. Any man who has a friend who is married knows that marriage isn't akin to a prison sentence.
The sad truth is that his refusal to commit is likely more of a direct reflection of his feelings, or lack of feelings, for you. If he's been waffling on the idea of getting married for some time, it's probably because he has questions regarding the depth of his feelings for you. This is common and is something many men struggle with when they're in a long term relationship.
You can typically tell when this is indeed the reason behind his hesitation. He'll shush people if they ask when the two of you are getting married or he'll say things like "we have plenty of time," or "what's the rush?" Although it's difficult to come to the realization that his lackluster feelings are the reason behind your non-existent engagement, it's always best to know exactly where you do stand so you can make a decision on what is best for you and your future.
The sad truth is that his refusal to commit is likely more of a direct reflection of his feelings, or lack of feelings, for you. If he's been waffling on the idea of getting married for some time, it's probably because he has questions regarding the depth of his feelings for you. This is common and is something many men struggle with when they're in a long term relationship.
You can typically tell when this is indeed the reason behind his hesitation. He'll shush people if they ask when the two of you are getting married or he'll say things like "we have plenty of time," or "what's the rush?" Although it's difficult to come to the realization that his lackluster feelings are the reason behind your non-existent engagement, it's always best to know exactly where you do stand so you can make a decision on what is best for you and your future.
Reference:Gillian Reynolds
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