Is He Scared of Commitment Or Just Unwilling to Commit? How to Know For Sure!

When the issue of commitment first comes up in a dating relationship, it can feel as though the entire world has come to a stand still. If you gently talk about how you envision the future and it involves being in a serious, perhaps even married, situation with your guy, his initial reaction will be very telling. Unless he falls to his knees and begs you to marry him right on the spot, you may not like what you see. In some cases, the guy will just change the topic of discussion without warning. Other men will start listing off the reasons they will never commit. Either way you're left facing your shattered dreams and feeling completely and utterly confused.

One of the first things you're going to have to address is the question of whether he is scared of commitment or just unwilling to do it. In your heart you want to believe that the reason he's not rushing to get more serious about you is because he's wary or feeling vulnerable. To most women we see that as a challenge. We want to nurture him and show him that loving us is okay and that we'll never hurt him. But what if his claim to be scared of taking that serious of a step is just a ploy to cover up the fact that he's not willing to do it? If you're wondering about this in relation to your guy, you can tell by paying closer attention to how he reacts to certain things.

How is he around other people who are married? This is a great indicator of where your guy stands on the issue of commitment. If you have friends who are planning their own weddings and he's constantly making comments about how they're crazy to be doing it or how you'd never catch him planning a wedding, his reluctance probably has much more to do with an unwillingness to commit than actually being scared of it.

You can also gauge where his heart is if you sense that he already feels that you are his completely. If he makes comments about how you'll never leave him or how he knows you'll wait for that commitment, he's not fearful of it at all. He views you as his and so he doesn't see any reason to put in the effort to take the relationship to the next level. If that's what is going on, that's as much about your behavior as it is his. You need to show him that until you have a commitment, you're your own woman and you intend to stay that way.

You don't have to wait for him to decide whether or not he's ready to commit to you. If you are tired of putting your dreams on hold because he's commitment phobic, there are things you can do to make him want to marry you now. Learn right now what you need to do to make him fall to his knees and beg you to marry him.

Reference: Gillian Reynods